December days are ticking away....

Our Christmas was wonderful! I'm so glad to be feeling well because weeks ago I really thought I'd be lucky to be up and out with everyone on Christmas Day. But my recovery is going great, and for the most part I feel pretty good. I still get into what I call a pain-zone when I haven't taken any pain killers, but lately I'm trying to only take one if we go somewhere, have friends over, or I just can't take it anymore.

The month of December has flown by. It seemed like I had forever before I had to start thinking about the next step: getting the port put in and starting chemo again the first part of January. But the days are ticking away and it's time to get mentally prepared for that, not to mention gearing up with my work again towards the end of January. I hope I feel good enough to do both simultaneously.

A happy and healthy New Year to you all! This will be the first year my resolution won't be to lose weight, having lost 23lbs in this ordeal. Please make your Resolution to get a colonoscopy if you're 50+ and haven't done so yet. (I know... TMI, but I just have to ask it! :) Thanks for still checking in with me. We'll write more when I get my port January 5th.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays

On this eve of our celebration of the birth of Christ, Debbie and I want to wish you a happy holiday season and thank you for all of the support we've received over the past six months. Debbie and I have received a life changing gift and that is realizing how blessed we are to have family and friends like you. It is the greatest Christmas present we could receive.

Take Your Vitamin D....

Doug found this article on the web and sent it to me. And I'd like to share it with you. I only put the first couple paragraphs, so to read the whole article go to: http://www.webmd.com/colorectal-cancer/news/20080618/vitamin-d-may-up-colon-cancer-survival

Vitamin D May Up Colon Cancer Survival
Study Shows Patients With Higher Vitamin D Levels Before Diagnosis Live Longer
Researchers with the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute and the Harvard School of Public Health have found that patients with colon cancer who were among the top 25% in levels of vitamin D before being diagnosed were less likely to die during the study period than those who were among the 25% with the lowest levels of the vitamin.
"Our data suggest that higher prediagnosis ... levels of [vitamin D] after a diagnosis of colorectal cancer may significantly improve overall survival," the researchers write.
Previous research published this year linked higher levels of vitamin D to a reduced risk of colorectal cancer, but the vitamin's effect on cancer survival wasn't known at that time. For the current study, researchers.....

Merry Christmas!

I figured it was time to change my photo to reflect the season. One month out from surgery, I'm still recovering, but feeling very good and am able to do lots of my normal activities and errands, except lifting heavy things. There won't be much updates until after the first of the year, so meantime I wish you a very warm, happy and safe Christmas. May you share it with family and friends, and truly appreciate everything that the Season represents.

More Chemo Ahead....

Somehow I hoped for different news, but we heard what we thought we would.... Dr. Basche explained that there was evidence of cancer cells having been in a couple lymph nodes and to assure that we get anything that may still be elsewhere in the body, I DO need more chemo. January 5th I'll be going in for minor surgery to put a port in my chest, then after that heals a few days I go back for my first treatment on the 13th, which involves a 3+ hour drip through the port, and I also get to leave with a fanny-pack of sorts of medication that continues to drip, then I go back to have it removed after two days. This whole process continues every-other-week for 4 months.

Side effects: I'm told to expect fatigue for about 3 days after each treatment; and neuropathy or tingling in my fingers and feet, along with extreme sensitivity to cold objects and liquids. Nausea can be expected but managed with medication. Hair loss, like the first round, should be minimal and probably just thinning. Even though I was expecting this news, it's still hard to hear, and hard to keep from getting emotional.

A while back I told my readers and advertisers that I plan to be back at work in February to start on a "March" issue, so I certainly hope I have energy enough to do just that. That's the plan anyway. Meantime, I have one month to continue to get stronger, to enjoy relative normalcy, such that it is, and treasure moments with my family and friends during the Christmas season, and ring in a new year.

Oncologist appointment

This afternoon we have an appointment with the Oncologist to see what extent of chemo I'll be needing after the holidays. Stay tuned....

Happy Thanksgiving

The Thanksgiving break is just about over, we had a great time at friends for the big day, then hosted some of Andi's college friends overnight, then some of Tori's friends the next, then over to other friends for a get together. I am thrilled to be back in the land of the living and regaining some normalcy. The pain is still managed by Advil and Percoset but I'm trying to pull back as much as I can. And considering I do get tired earlier than most, everyone was amazed when I made it to midnight during a mean game of Monopoly. There are many, many blessings this year - and I wish the same for all of you.

Made it to Starlighting!

I was concerned a week ago when I came home from the hospital that we would not be able to go to the annual Castle Rock Starlighting. But the week progressed, I was feeling better, and we DID make it again this year, albeit in a wheelchair. Although I can walk fine, I can't go very far without tiring. This way we were able to get around to all the streets and drink in the festivities, hear the carolers, see the long lines for the chili supper and sleigh rides. It was interesting to experience things from that vantage point though. There were curious looks but a lot of courtesy, smiles and "hellos". There was even two others in wheelchairs I caught eye contact with and shared an understanding smile and wave. Thanks to Doug for the push back UP the hill to the car, all 4 blocks. We were back in the neighborhood in time to hear the countdown from a distance, and to watch the Star light from a friends' deck. Truly magical. I love this town and its people, and this 73-year tradition. It signifies the beginning of the holidays, which will be even more special this year.

Metal-free

To the doctor’s office today, 45 minutes in the waiting room, my head on Doug’s shoulder as he read a Denver magazine. I alternated from reading over his shoulder, to closing my eyes, resting. Finally Dr. Brown was able to see us, with a medical student observing. We discussed a couple concerns, which turned out to be nothing, just normal. He removed the staples, this time into a quiet container. Not like the metal one 19 years ago when I had an ectopic pregnancy. Clink, clink, clink. I thanked him again for a successful surgery. He said much of the success can be contributed to me....! My build and being a woman with wider hips (than a man) made the area more accessible. As opposed to a big man, which would be like a long tunnel he’d have had to work in. Almost always they would end up with a permanent colostomy. A few more pleasantries and we were on our way. I’m still tender, but staple-free.

My next medical visit will be in about 3 weeks with Dr. Basche, the Medical Oncologist, for a CT scan to make sure all looks good, discuss the chemo plan and when it would begin. In about a year I’ll go back for another colonoscopy. If it’s all clear I'll be getting one every 3 years.

Post Surgery Progress

Yesterday a Home Health Nurse made her first visit. My vitals all look good, as does the incision area, which is good because tomorrow I get my staples removed! Among other things, I had concerns about extreme hot flashes to being very chilled... that's evidently common after surgery for a few weeks. She oversaw what Doug has to do for me, and asked questions from her forms generally meant for more senior patients (i.e. Have you fallen down since you returned home?, etc.). I'm one of the younger ones to get colorectal cancer, but it obviously can happen, so as I've hoped to stress all along this journey, if you haven't done so yet please get yourself checked.

Thanks to our friends and neighbors for the dinners brought by, and those yet to come. How wonderful! To Mary for the 15+ minutes of sunshine on your deck, and the items from the store. And to my Aunt Janice, Aunt Betty Tim, Mom, and sisters - I love you guys, and love hearing your inspirational comments so often!

I am home

Yesterday, Sunday we pulled in around 1pm, and it is so wonderful to be home with Doug, the kids, and the pets, oh and to sleep in my own bed... I'm able to waddle around the house slowly, and have been out for short walks up and back down the street drinking in the sunshine. My knees are a bit shaky but I have Doug's arm to hold onto.

The week in the hospital was long, but the results are exactly what we've all been praying for. It is truly amazing how much power prayer has, and the skill of the surgeon is evidence of that. I won't need a permanent collostomy, and what I have temporarily will obviously be an adjustment, but after a look in the mirror and a cleansing cry, I am ready to face the next few months.

I've been starting to read all the emails and comments, laughing and crying and knowing how thankful I am for so much. You all are my support, my rock.

Coming Home

Hi All,
It looks like Debbie may be coming home tomorrow (Sunday) after a very long hospital stay. These last days have been very emotional for her as I believe the gravity of what she's been through is really hitting home. Debbie has always been a very strong woman but the emotional drain of fighting cancer is tougher than most of the physical pain she's had to endure. While her progress has been wonderful it has been extremely long and painful and I know she's so ready to get her life back.

You all have been instrumental in keeping Debbie strong through the emotional struggle and for that our family is forever grateful. Now, I am so ready to get her home and get her through the healing. One more round and we will be victorious!! Praise God and thank you all.

Doug

Results... And now for the final period.

Hello All,
First off Deb is doing well in her recovery. She's been up and walking and Dr. Brown is very pleased with her determination and how far she's come.

We got Deb's pathology results and on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being the best, I'd say we scored an 8. There was a small amount of cancer where the tumor was (but it's been removed), so that means that we will be doing about 4 more months of chemotherapy probably beginning the first of the year to give the final blow to the cancer and insure it never returns.

Many of you know me as a hockey nut and thus my reference to the title of this blog. "After two periods of play, Debbie 2, Cancer 0". So with our family starting the third period, lets hope and pray that team Davis scores the final goal in the final period of this battle!!

As always we are so grateful to all of you for supporting "Team Davis" As the old sports cliche goes, "We couldn't have done it without all our support group"

-Doug

Recovery Day

Hello All, today Deb began her recovery. She got up twice, the first time was to just sit in a chair and a few hours later she walked to the door and took a couple of steps out in the hall. It was extremely hard and very painful for her but this is so important for her recovery. Her body needs to wake up and begin kicking back into gear. As painful as her walk was, this was very important. She's very wiped out tonight from her stroll's today and I feel she'll have another restful night.

Tomorrow we hear from pathology as to whether there was any cancer left and how much. If I may ask again for you all to pray that it comes back clean. Again, thanks for all the emails and phone calls checking in.

-Doug

Surgery day

I'll be going in just a few hours for the surgery. It's surreal, but needs to be done. God please guide the skillful hands of the surgeon, and give strength to my family until we all hear the word that everything went okay. And to everyone, as we've said all along, thank you so much for your kindness, support, and prayers. Doug will post as he hears news. Here we go.....

Debbie was rolled to surgery about 2:00 our time. I am now in a wait mode and it is the worst part. Dr. Brown told me that he assembled the best team he works with for Debbie's case today as opposed to docs he didn't know ( i guess that sometimes happens). Positive vibrations and praise God that he watches over Debbie.

It is now 9:30 PM and Debbie has finally made it to her room and I'm relieved and overjoyed to say she's doing great. The surgery turned out exactly as planned and according to Dr. Brown went as well as he could have expected. The relief is tremendous. It has been a long 3 1/2 months but I can start to believe we are over the toughest part of our journey. Praise to God for watching over Debbie and guiding Dr. Brown's hands in surgery and Dr. Acker's skill in radiation. To all of you, each and every one, for following this blog, and for supporting Debbie, my heartfelt thanks go to you. I'll write more tomorrow but I'm so very tired I'm going to lay next to my wife in my fancy barkalounger they have for me here at the hospital and drift off into the best sleep I've had in months.

Prep

Yesterday's appointment at the hospital (Presbyterian/St. Luke's) was with the stoma nurse, Carole. She measured and marked me, explained the use of the ileostomy and what to expect after surgery.

I've completed this last issue of the newsletters for '08 and arranged for their delivery the day after my surgery (thanks ladies). I've stocked up, paid and wrapped: groceries, bills and Christmas gifts as much as I could for now. The leaves are raked (thanks Tori & Alex), the checkbook balanced, and the laundry caught up. Now for the mental prep. The "other" prep comes on Sunday with the clear liquids, etc. Oh boy.

Benefit

Saturday night our family experienced an amazing act of generosity. A group of friends held a Halloween party which doubled as a benefit for us. Around a hundred friends gathered in a cozy, decorated barn with a DJ, dancing, food, drink, a silent auction and raffle prizes. A big "thank you" to Russ & Kristen, Michele & Garrett, Becky & Blair and Sharon & Rick who organized and hosted the event, and to all who attended, contributed and took part in any way. Your love and support will help us get through this time emotionally and financially. I was thrilled that I felt up to it and stayed almost to the end! It was wonderful to see everyone, we had such a great time – and if hugs were prayers then I have nothing to worry about in a week.

And on a side note, thank you to whomever left an unsigned card on the front door for us. We wish we knew who left it....

Conclusion

It was a very anxious morning, wondering what Dr. Blake's second opinion would be. After another exam and reviewing all of my records, this doctor DOES concur with Dr. Brown. In fact, he said there's not a doctor in this country that wouldn't recommend surgery. I suppose what he said gave us the reassurance that this IS what needs to be done, but I must admit for a few minutes I thought maybe it wouldn't have to happen.

Now though, after talking with him, he was not as optimistic as Dr. Brown, so we have a bigger fear of what COULD happen if the surgery isn't totally successful. Because the tumor was so low, and they will need to take at least another centimeter of tissue around where it had been, it is dangerously close to a muscle that if damaged would change my life as I know it. This is our greatest fear now. So, I have a new Prayer to ask – for a completely successful surgery on November 10th. If the result of earlier prayers are any indication, I have no doubt God will answer it. Please, keep the prayers coming....

Second Opinion

Although we have the utmost confidence in our surgeon, whose recommendation is radical reconstructive surgery, we felt we owe it to ourselves to get a second opinion, not because we doubt him but more to assure that this is the right way to go. If he agrees, then it's all systems go on November 10th. If he does not, then I'll be very confused and will have a hard decision to make. The appointment is tomorrow (Tuesday).

You may wonder "If the tumor is gone, why surgery?" Good question. Because there may be microscopic cancer cells left behind that are not detectable by any other tests except when sent to pathology during surgery. If the whole area isn't removed, these cells may grow back years later. A chance I wouldn't want to take. Stay tuned.

And to Doug...

YOU did it!!!! If ever there was an example of how a spouse should act as a caregiver (except for the recent ankle injury) you wrote the book mister! You're my hero during all this. And to our friends and family... God listened and acted upon all your prayers. My support system has been amazing, like nothing I EVER could have imagined. If I didn't reply to your emails or Blog comments I apologize, but know that I love getting them and was lifted up emotionally, and obviously physically. My fullest gratitude to you all. It WORKED!!! - Debbie

"I can't find it"

Family and Friends, those are the four sweetest words I have ever heard. Those are the words Dr. Brown our surgeon said to me today during our appointment trying to find the tumor. The only thing left is an ulcer where the tumor once was.

Words do not describe the emotions we are feeling right now other than Euphoric. I know this moment is short but we are savoring it, as we still have a long road ahead. But as I said to our dear friend Sharon M. the road just got paved.

A huge thanks to our team...ALL OF YOU and our team captain...God!!! Your prayers, many acts of kindness, thoughts, emails, etc. have inspired us and calmed us along this journey and made it possible for Debbie to focus on healing. YOU DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I want to especially thank Dr. Acker and his group at Skyridge Radiation...Angel, Gwen, Alli, Carol, & Tracy. And Dr. Basche with the chemo treatments. YOU DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Also a very special thanks to Greg...you rock with the acupuncture and Chinese herbs. All the rest of the gang at Integrative Medical in Castle Rock, Dave, Tam, David, we are so grateful for your healing hands!!! YOU DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Of course, love and thank you to our immediate family, your love and support of your Mother/Daughter/Sister is monumental. YOU DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Whew...Lots of emotion today. We still have surgery ahead of us and chemo after, but the road for a successful surgery has gotten alot brighter. Debbie's surgery is looking like Nov. 10th with probably about a week in the hospital.

Most of all, Debbie, my beautiful wife...You have been through 2 months of agony, but guess what YOU DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Much to do yet, but you will hit the homerun.

Longevity

This weekend was a real test of longevity. Saturday afternoon we drove to UNC (about 1-1/2 hours away) to see Andrea as Princess Alexandra in the play "Elephant Man." Other than a little stomach pain at dinner I was feeling quite good and then made it through the (amazing!) 2-hour play, but by 10:30pm I was ready to call it a night at the hotel while a group went out afterwards. Doug in his ankle cast hobbled around quite well. Sunday there was nothing wrong with my appetite as we went to brunch. We said our goodbye's at the dorm and headed back. More stomach issues just as we got back into Castle Rock, but then a great nap during the second quarter of the Packer game on TV did wonders. All in all. a quite successful outing.

This next week will be quite busy getting the last of my newsletters for '08 further along. Tori's off school for Fall break. The big day is Wednesday when we meet with the surgeon who will determine how successful the previous treatments have been, and let us know when the surgery should take place.

And another one goes down

Wednesday as Doug went out for his early morning run with our golden retriever, Logan, he stepped off the curb and buckled his left ankle in a pothole. He went down like a rock. Luckily a neighbor was nearby and helped him get back to our house (thanks Michelle!), where I answered the door in my robe and she said, "your husband's in my back seat, he twisted his ankle, we heard a big POP, and he has to get to the hospital." Aaahhh, you've got to be kidding! At 7am none of the urgent care places were open so she brought him back home, I put ice on it and waited until after 8am when another neighbor (thanks, Al!) took him. Long story short, now Doug will be doing "baby steps" in a walking cast for about 3 weeks, needs to elevate and ice it often, but is getting around pretty well and even driving. He says "nothing's going to keep me from taking care of you."

Coffee Talk

We met Meena for coffee. She's the lady who a year ago went through exactly what I'm about to, and she had offered to Dr. Basche that if she knew of any one who may benefit from her experience, she'd be happy to talk to them. Well that offer came the same day as one of my appointments with Dr. Basche, so I couldn't ignore the coincidence. Meena is my same age, has kids about our kids' age, works in Castle Rock, eats very healthy, doesn't smoke, and too was totally surprised by her diagnosis. We compared our chemo and radiation experiences, and she explained what I could expect with upcoming surgery, dealing with the temporary illiostomy bag, dietary restrictions, and the follow-up chemo (which may need to be the drip where they put a port in my chest and I go in every other week for 4 months). Meena's an amazing lady, who today is doing very well, and I thank her for being so candid, caring and giving of her time to meet with me.

A lot of things will be determined after our next appointment with Dr. Brown, the surgeon, which is next Wednesday, Oct. 22. That exam will tell if and how much the tumor has shrunk, and when the surgery will be. As I'm being told, baby steps, take every thing a day at a time. Right now my pain, which is mainly in my stomach, is being managed by Tylenol with Codeine 3 times a day, and an afternoon nap.

Better!

Earlier this week was pretty rough, but with each day that has gone by since I am feeling better. I was thrilled that I got up this morning and fixed us French Toast for breakfast, so obviously my strength AND appetite are better. It's mid-morning now and am starting to drag, so as not to push it I'd better cuddle back into bed on this chilly autumn day.

Boosts

There must be a few more days ahead of me before the getting-better part starts. Whew, what they boosted in me must be working its way out bit by bit. What I'm expelling is toxic, and leaves me exhausted and in pain. My appetite has been very little, usually soup and toast, so I make sure to drink Ensure and the sports drinks with electrolytes to replenish. I have not lost my hair, but I have lost 14 pounds, so I'm down to what my driver's license says. Diet and exercise would've been the best way to lose those, but oh well.

Last radiation / New prayer

We have completed the last of the Radiation treatments! Woo hoo! Thank you to the radiation oncology team at Sky Ridge Medical Center for greeting us with a smile everyday, and making this part of the journey less frightening. And to Dr. Acker, "let's hope that bat hit this skunk on the first swing!"

The last 3 days have been what they call "boosts" which are more intense and zeroed-in on the area (which WAS the tumor). This boost will continue to do its job for about 10 more days, and I should start feeling better day by day. In 3 weeks I get rechecked. If I may request a NEW Prayer, "For the tumor to be gone and that the impending surgery (in November) won't need to be as radical or invasive (reconstruction) as originally thought." There's nothing medical yet telling me otherwise, but that is my new hope.

And to Doug.... Happy 51st Birthday today! You rock.

Anniversary / Kids' surprise

Today's our 25th wedding anniversary. Any trip or dinner out has been temporarily postponed. But what I did do this afternoon was a great treat for myself... I had back-to-back appointments at Integrative Medical for acupuncture, chiropractic, massage (the best, most healing I've ever had), and kineseology, which was a chance to open up and express what I'm going through. After my radiation appointment at 11:00, all I had wanted to do was reschedule and crawl back into bed. I did not, I made it there, and am so glad I did. I practically floated back to the car. Although still tired, my mind, body and spirit has a newness about it.

Now, the girls evidently have something special planned for us tonight because yesterday we got a homemade invitation delivered all the way from UNC saying Doug and I are cordially invited to a Soire, and to meet in my office at 5pm. This should be creative if I know Tori and Andi. And Doug has a special dinner at home planned. How fun to anticipate...

SURPRISE: We arrived at my home office door promptly at 5pm to a desk full of silver confetti, and Hersey Kisses lined across the top of my monitor, with Andrea on screen (webcam). Tori pressed Play and a video presentation began showing pictures of Doug and I as children, then in the '70s when we met (seriously, was there no hair or fashion police back then?!); then pictures of our wedding day, all set to music with words written by Andrea, and technical work by Tori. It was wonderful, thanks girls.

Last few days

It's been a while since I've written, the last few days have been weary for me, and I can hardly get out of bed. Thank goodness for laptops. Bright spots have been getting cards and notes from high school friends, aunts, cousins, and old family friends. "Hello to you!", and I do plan to write you back, it just may be a while. Just know you brought a smile and a few tears.

At today's doctor visit, she evaluated what I'm going through and said with just two more days of Radiation left, go ahead and stop taking the chemo pills altogether. (Yeah!) So with that news, and finishing up treatments on Thursday, my days will only be getting better from here.

The light is getting a bit brighter

Hello friends and family!

When Deb and I started this journey we chose to look at it as standing at the beginning of a long path thru the forest . The forest reminded us of the one in Wizard of Oz, you know, with the knarly trees and haunting sounds. Rather than be defined by negativity we said to each other "each day forward from here was one step closer to getting thru that path in the forest".

Today Deb finished her 5th week of walking that path and we only have 4 more days to go next week. We are well into the forest and it is still scary, but lessening a bit, and the light is getting brighter at the end. We know there will be some dark days yet ahead in getting to the end, but making progress is a very uplifting emotion in fighting cancer. My pal Eric sent me an email that reinforced what we believe and it was so timely because there are days one does get down a bit when fighting cancer. He said "Keep the spirits up and keep counting down the days! As you have stated you are kicking the cancers a_s and that is taking all of her energy so don't fight that, and let her get as much rest as she needs to and let the body do the rest!"

This week has been very hard on Deb. She has been nauseous most of the week and is very fatigued. This is the most intense time for her but we have been told that after her last treatment, she should start to feel better soon. She will get a month off and then we will go thru surgery. About three weeks after her last treatment we will meet with her docs and we'll get a good idea of how successful the first round of treatment went and re-evaluate when and how much surgery.

Deb is truly a fighter and even though the treatments have knocked her down, it wasn't the cancer that got a punch in. That poor slob of a disease doesn't stand a chance with my girl!!!!

Thanks again for all your generosity, support, good wishes, and prayers!!
Doug

Weekend Update

My visualizing of the tumor has continued to change. A few days ago it went from a dot to getting nothing, just a blank screen, like a blanket of sand. The next time the sand was swirling down, like a chocolate milkshake getting blended. So Friday, I decided it was time to make myself see regenerating pink healthy tissue, much like insulation getting blown onto a wall. I'll likely continue that these last 9 days of treatment.

In the consult afterwards with Dr. Basche, she said everything I'm experiencing is pretty typical. I can be much more agressive with the Imodium, especially since we were heading to Greeley for Parent's Weekend and their home opener football game, and then continue up to the mountains for the night. All went better than expected. I was able to hoof around campus with Andrea and the gang, keeping up pretty well. They served a prime rib lunch which was the first red meat I've had since this began. It was amazing! And the game was exciting, as college games usually are. I had to stay under an umbrella because of the chemo, so I kept low as not to annoy the people behind me. The hairpin turns in the mountains got to me a bit, but the nausea pills kick in pretty quickly, thank goodness. The weekend was wonderful and well worth it.

And so it begins...

Well, I guess it's time to admit that I'm starting to feel the effects of the treatment. I've got an underlying just plain icky feeling, am moving a bit slower, having bathroom issues, and the noises coming from my stomach are usually only heard coming from the jungle floor. They said it'd start to happen around the third week, but I kept thinking "hey, this isn't so bad." Now halfway into the fourth week, it's getting me. Doug reminds me it's just temporary, and that is certainly the dangling carrot I'll be reaching for.

I'm trying to stay on time with my deadlines, but the newsletters may have to be a couple days late. The daily trips to the hospital for Radiation take a chunk out of my day, and I'm not burning the midnight oil like I use to. The numerous offers of help are still in the back of my mind, and I have started accepting a few of them.

Thank you to those who have not yet made the jump to putting a comment on this Blog, but have sent personal emails, called or sent cards and letters. It's so wonderful to hear from you. If you want Doug to walk you through the Blog comment-thing, just email him at ddavis@archifects.com. I'd love to have your messages posted with the others. Until later....

Update on Debbie

Hi Friends and Family,

Wanted to give you an update on Deb. We have finished three weeks of Chemotherapy and Radiation. Or as I’d like to think, three weeks of destroying the cancer. We have two and a half more weeks ahead of us and Deb is starting to feel the effects. She is tiring more quickly and does experience the upset stomach a bit also. But I got to tell ya, she continues to amaze me with her attitude that this is merely a distraction in her daily life. She continues to work which is good therapy for her and tries to keep things on as much of a normal basis as possible.

In about two weeks we will be going thru more tests to see how successful this first round of treatment has been. Some of the symptoms of what started this are disappearing so I’m positive that the cancer is being destroyed. So with that said, pray for her that this first round is successful and that the surgery will also be very successful.

I continue to thank you all for the thoughts, prayers, generous acts of kindness, emails and phone calls. You all have been an inspiration to us and for that we are blessed.

Positive Vibrations
Doug

Visualization

I know there's so much more to visualization than what I'm currently doing, but due to my deadlines I have not yet had the time to delve in and read about it. What I had been told early on was to imagine the tumor getting smaller and smaller with each radiation treatment.

Today marks the end of my third week, and the images that pop into my mind as I lay face down have changed over time. At first it was a alien-like little guy coming out of a donut shaped object, getting blasted by a fire-hose. When the buzzing of the radiation starts he doesn't know what hit him, and he flails around until he gets knocked down to nothing. With each of the 3 beams, he tries to get back up but eventually gets shriveled away. Over these 3 weeks, I let my mind go and they just appear. It's morphed into a laser beam doing much the same, but oddly enough the "guy" has been in an innertube with a foo-foo drink when he gets blasted, then holding a picket sign. Interestingly, this week when I lay there and think "okay, what 'chya got for me today" ...it's a charred black oval object that appears on end, and gets chiseled away by the blast. Yesterday it was noticeably smaller than on Monday. I'm thinking this is all a good sign.

It will be few more weeks yet before they check to see if the tumor has shrunk. They don't want to do it too soon, in order to give it enough time and so I don't get discouraged.

Prayer

I recently finished the book "Cancer and The Lord's Prayer" written by Greg Anderson, and given me by friends. It explains the hope and healing possible by reciting the greatest prayer in history. It takes the Lord's Prayer sentence-by-sentence and explains the deeper meaning in its words. By knowing this I am now able to recite it with a definite sense of purpose instead of just repeating the words I've memorized.

And the amount of people telling me, in emails or in person, that they'll be praying for me has been amazing. I am so thankful for those prayers and hope the wires are overflowing up in heaven. One person asked me for something specific that she could pray for. I would have to say "for the tumor in my lower bowel to shrink or go away completely and for a successful surgery with complete recovery." And to thank God, in advance, for my recovery.

Prayer... another opportunity for regaining health and well-being.

Stand Up

I hope you were able to watch "Stand Up To Cancer". It was an unprecedented event aired on all 3 major networks -- that was so informative, inspirational and emotional. We used a half a box of tissue by the end of the show. Every one of us have been touched by cancer. In these short weeks I've heard stories from dozens of people who have gone through it or helped a loved one with it. Right now, Doug and I have 4 very close friends on a journey of their own. We will ALL benefit from the money raised for research. You can see more and donate at www.standup2cancer.org.

Herbs and other integrated treatments

I've been drinking tea brewed with Chinese herbs. A half cup before breakfast and again before dinner. Then a dfferent one throughout the day, with an added mint green tea bag thrown in to add more flavor. Basically the herbs are clearing heat and dissolving phlegm nodules. They are also removing heat toxins from the blood. The Chinese have used these herbs for thousands of years to treat conditions similar to my problem.

This plus acupuncture, chiropractic, massage and kinesiology are all beneficial treatments to aid in boosting the immune system and working with mind, body and spirit. Thanks to the team who are helping me accomplish this.

Rebounding

This particular activity was brought to our attention from my good friend, Michele. Doug checked it out on the internet, and we both figured "why not." It is basically jumping lightly on a trampoline for a few minutes, a number of times a day. The effect rebounding has on the lymph in the body is very beneficial, and much easier on your joints than jogging. Your body is in a state of weightlessness at the top of the bounce, and then experiences 2-3 times the force of gravity at the bottom, depending on how high you bounce. This type of exercise can increase lymph flow by 15 to 30 times, which is important because the lymph system bathes every cell, carrying nutrients to the cells and carrying waste products away. Cells left stewing and starving for nutrients can quite possibly lead to arthritis, cancer and other degenerative diseases, as well as aging. To find out more Google "Rebounding".

We have a full-size trampoline in the back yard for the kids. Doug and I jump a few times a day, thankful for the full leaves on the trees to hide us from the neighbors. Perhaps this winter we'd better invest in a mini one for inside. If nothing else, it's fun, good exercise, and you don't have to deal with cars or bad weather.

Labor Day weekend

My first week of R&C is complete. I don't have to take it on the weekends, or holidays when the Radiation crew has the day off at the hospital. What I continue to do is the alternative healing treatments, including prayer, visualization, rebounding and Chinese herbal teas, in which I'll touch on in the coming days.

We've had Andrea home from college for the weekend, so it was wonderful having both girls in the house again. She leaves this afternoon, and will be gone for a much longer period of time as she has been cast in a main-stage production ("Elephant Man") at UNC. It's extremely rare to be cast as a Freshman, so she is very honored and excited!

Many thanks....

Already on this journey, I have so many to thank for so many different things. You'll know who you are - thank you for the creation of this blog and teaching me how to use it; for the support and laughter, and the big wooden bat, for the continual fresh flowers from your garden and the offer of airline miles, the gift basket full of movies, lotions and fuzzy socks; for the pewter Angel ornament, the gas cards to ease the pain at the pump for my many trips to Sky Ridge hospital and Andi's trips home from college, for the fresh baked bread and vegetarian cookbooks, the fresh peaches from your tree, those from the farmer's market, the pedicure certificate, the opening of an account by "friends" to help with the added expenses, the books of Prayer, of Surviving Cancer, of Meditation and Visualization; the offers to help with my work and anything else I may need, grocery store runs, the contributions to house-cleanings, the offers to talk with other cancer survivors, of alternative medical treatments; and of mountain get-aways; the cards, thoughts, prayers, visits, phone calls, emails and Comments.... It's these acts of kindness that make me emotional. I can talk about the treatments and the surgery in a matter of fact tone, but tell me I'm in a Prayer Circle and I'm a blubbering mess. Thank you all for being with me during this. I can not tell you how much it means... yes I can - it means the world and all to me, and to my family.

A special shout-out to Doug - you are my rock. You're there to take me to appointments, to hear what the doctor is saying when I'm numb, you're my cheerleader, my nutritionist, and my shoulder to lean on. You are everything to me, and I love you more now than ever before. And to Andrea, Tori, my mom and sisters, for your love and care. Everything will turn out fine.

First day of treatment.

I took my 3 (morning) chemo pills within 30 minutes of eating breakfast, as instructed by the video we quick watched right before. Nothing like waiting 'til the last minute. It didn't tell us anything we hadn't already been told, except to keep a log, and note the dosage and any side effects that day. Today was FG, "feel good." We arrived on-time for our 11am Radiation appointment, they were running just a bit behind because another patient snuck into the schedule unexpectedly. Ordinarily that shouldn't happen. It took less than 10 minutes, and didn't hurt a bit. I laid in the prone position, the beam hit me in the targeted areas making three 15-second buzz noises, with a minute or two in between. While that's happening, I am visualizing the cancer's destruction.... today I pictured a laser beam zapping the crap out of the tumor. Tomorrow maybe Pac Man chewing it up. Another day, perhaps a fast rushing stream eroding it away. I've got a few more, but if you have any suggestions, send me a Comment.

Afterwards my nurse, Gloria, weighed me, took my blood pressure and oxygen levels. She'll do that every Monday. I've lost 5 lbs. since we started, but I'm sure that's just because of increased salads and decreased dark chocolate malted milk balls. Gloria also reviewed what I might start feeling, such as skin changes, nausea and fatigue. And that it is important for me to know that feeling tired does NOT mean I'm getting sicker, it's just a side effect. And to give myself permission to take naps. I AM just a bit tired this afternoon – but I'm sure it's because I finally got the last of the newsletters to press! I still have a few days of loose ends to tie up, but I should be able to sneak in a nap now and again.

Lining me up.

Friday's final preparation had me lying in the prone position, elevated 4' off the ground in front of the linear accelerator (radiation machine). I was repositioned numerous times until the x-marks on my backside aligned perfectly with the machine's cross-hairs. Four x-rays were taken, and I was then lowered and marked with 3 permanent pin-point sized tattoos, made with India ink and a needle. I hardly felt it. These marks will now be the ones used to line up the cross-hairs during my treatments starting Monday. Afterwards the technician invited Doug in and explained to us about the machine and procedure, and let us know that the images they will be using for the next 5-6 weeks does not show whether the tumor is shrinking, it's strictly for positioning. I imagine she'd been asked that a lot. I will have periodic tests which will show the progress of the tumor's reduction. This weekend I will open my package of chemo pills, get them in the pill organizer - and mentally prepare for the cancer destruction commencement.

Coincidence, I think not.

Dr. Basche called the other day to let me know that just after our appointment, a former patient of hers came in to touch base and offered to talk with anyone else going through what she went through. Given the fact that she is my exact age, had the same symptoms, went through the same treatment and surgery that I'm about to, and the timing of this unselfish offer - I could not ignore it. I called her late yesterday afternoon. Sitting on my patio, phone in one hand, notepad in the other, I asked questions, writing down the different things she experienced, and what I might expect. She was so kind and eloquent discussing this not-so-pleasant experience, it was quite reassuring. And then I found out that she works in Castle Rock, has a daughter just off to college and a son about Tori's age.... I felt such a connection and relief knowing a year after her own surgery, she's doing very well. We agreed to meet for coffee someday very soon.

CT and PET results.

Yesterday's test was a final high res CT of the abdomen and pelvis. The initial results showed concern in the lymph nodes but the inflamation may have been due to the procedure because the final conclusion is that the PET scan shows that other than the one mass I'm "clean as a whistle" throughout the rest of my body, including lymph nodes!

Due to the time consuming process of evaluating the results, going through the Simulation today (which is making a template of sorts for the radiation), and then us taking Andrea up to UNC, Greeley on Thursday, and then a run-through on Friday, the Radiation & Chemo (R&C) will finally start on Monday.

Chemo and scans.

Yesterday our Medical Oncologist, Dr. Basche, answered more of our questions, then she calculated and ordered my chemo pills. By 1:30 we were at the RMCC (Rocky Mountain Cancer Center) facility having a P.E.T. scan (Positron Emission Tomography), much like a CT. They started an IV, took a small blood sample to check my blood-sugar level, then I was brought outside (through the rain) and into their mobile unit lab where I was injected with a small amount of radioactive glucose (called a "tracer") from a very intimidating fat, metal syringe, then for 45 minutes stayed still while covered with blankets and reclining in a lounge chair to allow it to go through my blood stream. I finally fell asleep the last 15 minutes or so. Then to the scanning bed which moved in and out slowly, detecting the tracer - about a 30 minute process holding perfectly still with my arms over my head. Then it was over... I felt fine during and afterwards - there's no risks or side effects involved. The results will be forwarded to the Radiation Oncologist, arming him with even more ammunition to plan the most accurate treatment. Once home at 4:30pm, we finally got to eat for the first time since 6am. Doug wouldn't go get a bite, he says "we're in this together."

We have the weekend off from doctors and hospitals (I'm on deadline, so I still have to work). Monday I'll have one more high res CT scan (requested by the surgeon). Tuesday I should be able to start the radiation treatments and chemo pills, 3 after breakfast, 3 after dinner, Mon.-Fri. for 5-6 weeks.

Symptoms and finding out.

Many have asked about symptoms and how I knew. Until this, I too wondered how people knew to get checked for cancer. What were they feeling or experiencing? What are the signs? The quickest answer is to listen to your body. If something is just not right - question it. And don't put it off. My issues are intestinal, so I prefer not to go into great detail - and I'm sure you'll appreciate that - but if you have concerns and would like to talk to me personally, I'm here. Already in conversations with close friends, there's been a few who were experiencing similar symptoms but weren't sure if it was serious enough to pay attention to. Please do! The best thing that can happen is you have nothing wrong and can be relieved that you had the colonoscopy that you needed to get done anyway! A place to start..., call:
RMGA (Rocky Mountain Gastroenterology Assoc.), Aurora 303-671-5553

What I will tell you is the colonoscopy itself was a piece of cake. These days they put you under enough to not give a $@#! (no pun intended). It's the preparation the day before that I'll remember as the worst - having no solid foods and the drinking of 64 oz. of Gatorade with the Miralax in it. Uuggghhh. Not even the other part that is involved was that terribly bad. I could not stomach the 10th glass of it, no matter how I tried, my body would not let me drink it.

Going into the procedure, the doctor was quite sure that he will just discover internal hemoroids and we'd just need to deal with them. Imagine my surprise as I came out of the groggy state to see him explaining to Doug what was found. I remember wondering "why are they saying these things, and why does Doug have the look of shock and awe on his face." The next day's visit with the surgeon confirmed the findings. I actually asked "How quickly could it get removed because next week I start my deadlines again." He paused and said, "Uh, it's not going to be that easy." In his office, he began discussing Radiation, Chemotherapy, Surgery. "Wait!" Again, what's this you're saying!?? I presumed this was the worst-case scenario, and that there's a lot less "worse things" we'd actually have to go through. So far, that's not the case.

I've had a few days off from doctor appointments. Tomorrow (Friday) I have a couple more, one of which is a P.E.T. Scan which will tell in more detail the extent of this cancer, if there's any others lurking anywhere else, and will give the Radiation Oncologist the precise information he needs. Then next week sometime the treatments will begin. Hopefully not Thursday, as we'll be taking our oldest daughter to college and getting her set up in her dorm. Just this week our youngest started high school! So very much to think about, do and feel. But God wouldn't give me more than I can handle. Right? Right!!

Cancer is like a skunk...

Hi all, I'll be stepping in from time to time for Debbie and updating you. We had a good day yesterday. We met the radiation oncologist and he is the most eloquent, confident, and easy to talk to doctor I have ever met. A true gentleman. If the medical profession had more docs like him, we'd all be in a much better place. He was very confident that the first stage of Deb's treatment, of which he's involved, will be successful in reducing the tumor size allowing for success down the road. Friday will be a long day for us as we have tests and consultations at two different hospitals and I'm sure they will turn out good also.

Deb's spirits are good and all of your calls, thoughts, and generous offers of help are inspiring to us.

Oh and referring back to the title of this post...it comes from Dr. Acker, Deb's radiation oncologist. He said "Cancer is like a skunk – if you're going to kill it with a bat, you'd better hit it with the first swing."

Positive vibrations and blessings to you all. - Doug

The beginning....

Only a week has gone by since the diagnosis, and I am quite sure that we have been through every emotion possible. I can finally speak about it without tearing up so I feel it's a good time to start this Blog to share my experience, hear from you and answer questions.

To fill you in....
Last Monday I had a colonoscopy, Tuesday we met with a surgeon, Wednesday was the ultrasound, Thursday met with the Oncologist. The weekend was a time for rest and realization. Tomorrow we'll meet with the Radiation Oncologist to set up the Radiation and Chemotherapy treatments which should begin this next week. Surgery will come sometime in November, then we'll go from there.

Both our daughters are starting new school adventures, one into high school the other into college. Doug and I didn't know we'd be adding this new journey among all that excitement, but we'll face it with determination.

As for my work, those who know me well know that publishing my newsletters has been a great pleasure for me these last 18 years, and I'm not done yet. I fully intend to print a September, October and November issue - and to have them out on the first of the month like usual, but that may have to be flexible. After that, it will likely be necessary to forgo a few months but please be loyal readers and Advertisers, and watch for me to return in the Spring.

The well wishes and prayers thus far has been very touching! We are so keenly aware of how blessed we are to have such an awesome circle of friends like you.